So, the other day I was talking to my friend and she mentioned something that really made me stop and think. She said that she has made a commitment to stop complaining, and her husband has joined her in this commitment. After just 1 week of focusing on her commitment, she has noticed an improvement in her relationship and their overall communication. Instead of focusing on their problems, they have started putting that same energy towards goal setting and building a better life together.
What happens when you complain?
Let’s talk about what happens when you complain. When you complain, you remain focused on what you are dissatisfied with in your life. The energy used to focus on the dissatisfaction keeps you out of alignment with your true wishes and intentions. The more you complain, the more things you find to complain about. You attract people who want to complain and they, in turn, encourage you to talk about your complaints. Not to mention the people who feel the need to one-up everyone. Now you are pulled into a competition of who has the biggest complaint. A victim mentality is also a side effect of complaining. When you complain, you exude hopelessness and powerlessness, as if you are not able to find a solution. And a side effect that most don’t think about, you feel very little gratitude and happiness with life.
What happens when you stop complaining?
Now let’s take a look at what happens when you stop complaining. When you stop complaining, you will find that you need something to replace the complaint thought in your head. Most of the time that will be a thought of gratitude for the things that are going right. With your focus more on what is going right in your life, you will continually notice more and more positive events. You will stop attracting complainers, and find yourself surrounded by motivated action takers. When problems arise, instead of complaining you will start to look for solutions. You will become the go-to person at work because you provide solutions rather than complaints. In the right work environments, you will be considered for promotions and regarded as a leader. Where others only see problems, you will see opportunities.
So, what’s next?
For months, I’ve been seeing articles and YouTube videos that mention the need to stop complaining and how it can change your life. So now that it has come to my extreme inner circle, I’m pretty sure it’s a sign that I need to pay attention to. It’s something that I try to focus on, when I remember. Now I’m making a conscious effort to stop complaining. And it’s perfect timing, coming in as I’m in the middle of my gratitude challenge.
As you are on your personal development journey, I strongly encourage you to make a commitment to stop complaining. Even if you only try it for one or two weeks, you will notice an improvement in your life.
If you’d like to kick your commitment into high gear, join our 30-day gratitude challenge where you will focus on building a daily habit of gratitude.